Comments on The Perpetual Search for Personal Nirvana: Junk Food Alcoholism

I wish him well in his recovery. At least he's try...

2009-03-18T17:06:00.000-05:00

I wish him well in his recovery. At least he's trying.

And you, friend, who I've followed for a long time, deserve special prayers for your suffering. I've been there too.

I didn't have a problem with alcohol until I had g...

2008-11-20T03:42:00.000-05:00

I didn't have a problem with alcohol until I had gastric bypass. Go figure.

One Day At A Time.

www.soberrecovery.com has a lot of online support and is one of my favorite message boards for people in recovery and their loved ones.

I wish you luck. I, too, have a sweet tooth that w...

2008-09-06T17:54:00.000-05:00

I wish you luck. I, too, have a sweet tooth that will not quit.

I recently read Geneen Roth's book "If You're Going to Eat at the Refrigerator...Pull Up a Chair" - you might check it out, it has given me a new way to look at how I eat without depriving myself or feeling like I need to start a diet.

Smalltown RN....that was one of the hardest things...

2008-09-04T19:35:00.000-05:00

Smalltown RN....that was one of the hardest things I've ever admitted publically. I don't think people understand how good a man can be...how truly good a man can be.. until the ETOH takes hold. It's a whole difference universe...a whole different person. Yes, you are right he his is own worst eneny; but I can't allow him to drag me down with him. Our relationship as of late as been reminiscent to that of 10 years ago. Loving, kind, and ohhhh so good. I'm trying very hard not to think of the ball dropping. I'm scared, but hopeful.

Thank you so much for your words of encouragement.

When I first started reading your post I wondered ...

2008-09-04T13:55:00.000-05:00

When I first started reading your post I wondered where you were going with this. I commend you on your courage and your strength......If you will bear with me I would like to share my story....

My husband is an alcoholic.....he was a raging drinker when I met him.....I didn't know the history...until I was hook line and sinker in love with him.

Apparently, he was always a drinker...even at a young age...13....now I am not making excuses but his mother and fathers side had alcoholics as was his mother.....also at a young age of 2 1/2 he almost died from being burnt....there's some of the history......

When I met him he was going through a very ugly divorce...I thought it was the divorce that pushed him over the edge...as it turns out he was also addicted to cocaine.....he went to rehab and got clean...hasn't touched the stuff since....

Now the drink.....I have gone through 5 bouts of him trying to quit drinking...the withdrawls..the shakes, the vomitting, the irritability....he even seizured...and that was very scary....oh he was also addicted to ativan...that they gave him to help him withdraw from the drink.....

I don't know what it was...but one day 3 years ago he decided no more....he just up and quit....he decided that he wasn't going to let the drink control his life anymore. He briefly went to AA but found it wasn't working for him...he wanted to do it on his own.....I must admit...he has still had the odd drink...but he knows when to say no....I don't know how he does it....at first he had to avoid going to gatherings until he was strong enough....When he goes he may or may not have a drink....generally he doesn't....pop is now huge in the house as is juice....

My hubby has an addictive personality.....but some how he has managed to fight the disease and I truly believe it is a disease...his disease is addiction....it's his nature....he pushes his limits all the time...he loves to do things that are adreniline causing....it's just who he is....sometimes I wonder if part of that stems from him cheating death when he was a child....I don't know.

He did hit bottom....he had a million dollar business that he lost....he lost his licence and couldn't drive for two years....he lost his boys...his wife left and took the boys 5000km away....

He wants his life back....he wants to make a life for us...and he is working hard at that....and what can I do...but be there....like your husband,mine has always been loving and caring towards me and his children....he is his own worst enemy and he finally recognized that.....

Thank you for sharing your story....that was very brave...and I will pray for both you and your hubby......

your heart will tell you if you are supposed to go...

2008-09-03T14:35:00.000-05:00

your heart will tell you if you are supposed to go. The fact that he is 40 days sober means he is at least working to beat the disease, and after spending so long by his side, it is only fitting that you be there to witness his defeat of his beast of burden. My good thoughts are sent to both of you.