Divorce, Battles and Love.....which do you want your legacy to be?

The pictures were that of a young child with freckles across her nose. Her smile was bright and her blue eyes were radiant as the various photos were snapped. The smile that accentuated her high cheek bones gave way to the happiness she felt inside. Her grandmother had traveled 3 hours to be with this child; and the child pictured in the photos could not have been happier. Grandma and grandchild together, spending the afternoon alone doing exactly what the grandchild wanted to do. This was "her day;" her special day with Grandma that were few and far between.

Divorce doesn't only affect the relationship with the child, mother and father; but it also affects the relationship that a grandparent can have her their grandchild. This relationship can be a very special bond that needs nourished and enhanced by both sides of the coin; by the custodial parent and the grandparents of the non custodial parent. The child will flourish in the love that each person can bring to her life. Love, born from pure love, can never be bad, but only be an enrichment in one's life.

As I looked at the photographs I felt a sudden happiness for the grandmother who was able to spend "alone" time with her granddaughter who lived 3 hours away. Grandma drove the 3 hours down to gush on her grandchild for a few hours and drove the 3 hours back home. Every second they spend with each other, every phone call or card they share will remain special in each of their lives.

Then I looked deeper into the the pictures. I didn't see a picture of Grandma and grandchild together because there was not another person who could take the snapshot of both in the same frame. My heart saddened as I thought about what the natural parents were missing to have a grandmother who truly cared for this wonderful little girl and not partake in it's special joy and meaning.

People, open your eyes to what you see. Open your eyes to what your children want and need. Open you heart to what will benefit your child the most. Open your door and let all those that love your child on a special level inside. Don't make the mistake of it being his parents or her parents; make the choice of it being the child's grandparents who adore a child without conditions.